How to Have Luscious (& Game-Changing) Mornings
Happy November! What a full few weeks it's been – I am in week 3 of Magnetic with 33 *amazing!* women and we are on day #10 of a 40-day morning ritual challenge.
Would you like to join us? You may be thinking, what is a morning ritual challenge? Let me start by sharing why I love morning rituals and how they have profoundly changed my life.
In my early 20s I was living in NY working for a startup and stressed as hell. I was passionate about the company mission and felt so grateful to even have a job considering the market had just crashed – but internally I was struggling.
I knew something had to change.
One day I came home from work and decided to create a sacred space for me to sit, and just be. I turned over a milk crate, draped it with a scarf and placed a few sacred items on top – a candle, crystal and a rose. This was my first personal altar.
Photo: my current altar as of nov 2016
As soon as I sat down, I felt my whole being exhale.
I sat there with my eyes closed, and for the first time in a while I could hear my heart whisper – yes. There were tears, of course = )
I continued sitting every morning – some days drinking tea and journaling, and other days doing breathing exercises, meditating and speaking to the Universe.
I realized that it evoked connection, gratitude, beauty, wonder and love. I felt clear, grounded and able to hear the sweet, loving and powerful voice deep inside of me.
Over the years, my morning practice has been a catalyst for so much – a place to process emotion, empty my mind, receive visions, have clarity around big decisions, and most importantly, listen to the wisdom and guidance speaking from within.
My sacred morning practice is where I've called in my business Rose Holistic, my partner Benjamin, my current home in the redwoods and my future baby.
So often we can tell ourselves we don't have time – that sleep is more important!
I get that, truly I do. I'm a sleeper and certainly not a morning person. But after challenging myself to 40 days of morning ritual, I experienced such a profound shift in my consciousness that now I make time. Believe me, it's so worth waking up an extra 10 minutes earlier to have that sacred pause.
Doing a morning practice is like charging your batteries or brushing your teeth, but instead of for your cell phone or teeth, it's for your heart and soul.
You're plugging into your true self – Source.
After a few months of morning practice, I noticed amazing opportunities were knocking on my door, I was getting raises, I wasn't as stressed, I began having more productive, aligned, grace-filled, flowing days, and found myself walking with confidence and ease.
Since then, I've been sitting everyday, even if it's for only 5 minutes.
I've learned 10 deep breaths and saying 1 thing I'm grateful for goes a long way.
Some days 5 minutes is all I can do, and other days I can afford 2 hours. It's important not to be too rigid or else you'll give up. Allow your practice to be fluid!
The other day Ben and I went to the ocean and brought rose petals. We stood where the water meets the sand and sent love to those we love while releasing the petals into the ocean. She was our altar, and the petals were our prayers.
Are you interested in beginning or revamping your morning practice?
Try these 3 steps:
Step 1: Create a sacred space in your home
Find somewhere quiet, beautiful and spacious. It doesn't have to be fancy, just simple and warm. If you already have an altar but you haven't sat there for weeks, then it might be time to revamp your space. Take everything off, clean the items and only put back what feels alive, activated and current.
Bonus tip: Take 10 minutes the night before to set up your sacred space. Make it alluring so you literally seduce yourself into sitting.
Step 2: Decide what you'll do!
Consider your core desired feelings. A few of mine are connection, spaciousness and beauty. Now think of rituals that evoke those feelings. For me gentle yoga, tea or cacao, breathing, meditation and writing at my altar hit the spot.
I love making a plan for what I will do if I have 5 minutes or 45 minutes. That way I know what I will do depending on how much time I have, which varies day to day.
It's helpful to decide what your trigger action step will be. For example, sit at your altar after your brush your teeth (which you already do every day... hopefully; ) or after you drink a glass of warm water with lemon. By pairing it next to a habit you already do everyday without thinking helps you to remember!
I use a candle to initiate and close my ritual. So when I begin, I light the candle, put on soothing music, stretch, meditate etc, and when I've finished with my writing or gratitude meditation, I blow it out. It creates a sacred container for the practice.
I find using a timer like Insight Timer helpful for keeping track of time so my mind is at ease and I don't have to check the clock or my phone every few minutes.
Step 3: Commit to 40 days
We see the best results when we show up to this practice consistently because the benefits are cumulative. Ask someone to hold you accountable. In Magnetic the women text each other every day after they've completed their ritual – and it's made all the difference! In just 10 days of morning ritual massive shifts are already happening for them.
See it as an experiment. How might my life change? How can I magnify my energy and impact by knowing myself more? Aren't you curious?
Are you in? If so, let me know and keep me posted how it goes.